Proverbs 3:31 tells you not to envy someone who gets ahead through violence, and not to copy the way they live. The verse is a short command, not a promise about how such people will turn out, so its force lies in what it asks you to do with your own heart and choices. King Solomon, traditionally identified as the author of the book, speaks here as a father or teacher addressing a young person who is learning how to live well in a world where cruelty sometimes seems to pay off.
Don’t envy the man of violence. Choose none of his ways.
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What Proverbs 3:31 Means
The phrase “the man of violence” describes someone who gets what he wants by force, intimidation, or harm to others. The word “envy” names the restless wish to have what he has, or to be as powerful and unrestrained as he appears to be. Solomon does not tell you that such men are unimportant or that their success is an illusion. He tells you not to let their apparent advantage stir a longing in you, and not to adopt their methods as your own.
The second line, “Choose none of his ways,” moves from feeling to action. It asks you to make a deliberate decision not to take up his tactics, whether that means deceit, bullying, or grabbing at what belongs to someone else. The verse does not promise that refusing violence will bring immediate material reward. It describes a settled character that refuses to be shaped by what it admires from a distance.
The Context of Proverbs 3:31
Proverbs is a collection of wisdom sayings meant to form a young person into someone who fears the Lord and lives with integrity. Chapter 3 opens with a call to trust God and walk in his paths, and the verses around 31 deal with everyday fairness: paying what you owe, not plotting harm against a neighbor, not picking fights without cause. Verse 31 sits in that run of practical instructions about how to treat other people.
Read in that setting, the verse is less a general reflection on the injustice of the world and more a specific warning about your own relationships. The verses that follow describe how the Lord regards the perverse and the upright, and how he gives grace to the humble. That framing means Solomon is inviting you to trust God’s justice rather than to measure your life against the apparent winners around you.
Key Phrases in Proverbs 3:31
Psalm 37:1
Don’t fret because of evildoers, neither be envious against those who work unrighteousness.
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This psalm opens with the same caution against fretting over the wicked, and it shows the heart behind Solomon’s warning. Reading it alongside Proverbs 3:31 reinforces that envy of the violent is a temptation the wise learn to resist.
Proverbs 24:1
Don’t be envious of evil men; neither desire to be with them…
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Here Solomon repeats the warning in a slightly different form, telling you not to envy evil men or desire their company. The repetition shows how central this concern was to the book’s picture of a righteous life.
A Short Prayer From Proverbs 3:31
Lord, you see the people who seem to win by hurting others, and you know how easily my heart is drawn to envy them. Keep me from wanting what they have at the cost of my integrity. Give me the courage to choose honest and gentle ways, even when they look slow or costly. Remind me that you are the one who gives grace to the humble, and help me trust your justice more than the apparent success of the proud. Amen.